-takes a deep breath and braces for the potential shit storm-
Alright, so here are my tips on writing romances. Do note, everyone’s idea of romance is different. What some people find as sweet others find as corny. What some people think as hot or sexy, other people find it slutty and promiscuous. HOWEVER…if you are in the process of writing a romance you are pandering (in a sense) to the public as a whole.
"But Kiba, you just said that there isn’t a sole definition of romance!"
You’re damn right I did. So here’s what I do: use your own. If there’s a question that doesn’t have a right answer, then yours can’t be too wrong (and if it is wrong then people will like that too.)
The way that I look at romance when I’m writing my stories is that I think of it in terms of “cliches”. I mean, they’re cliche for a reason. It’s because they’ve been overused to the point where they come back around full circle and that’s what most people use to judge romance by. That being said: Often the male (or more masculine) partner has a more protective nature while the female (or more feminine) partner has more of a supportive nature. This formula is basically a magnetic “perfect relationship” attraction that goes for MAXIMUM COMPATIBILITY. And that’s fine. Is it realistic? For some people it is. Is it oppressive? Ha ha…no.
-takes a knee- Listen kids, oppression is the discrimination of another group by treating them as inferiors in and using that inferiority to gain benefits from that relationship. Being a protective boyfriend does not mean that the boyfriend is oppressing the girlfriend. It means he cares about her so he’s trying to show it by protecting her. This does not mean he sees her as inferior. This does not mean he feels she’s incapable of taking care of herself. It means he’s trying to show commitment by going out of his way to care for her, often preemptively.
"But what if they’re GOLBAT?" (Gay, omnisexual, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, transgender. I mean come on, that’s an awesome acronym)
My answer to that? So what if they are? Now, I’m not going to drag out my soapbox here but the fundamentals of love and romance are not based on who they’re between or their gender. What makes good story telling is not who is involved, but how they are involved with one another.
Don’t believe me? Read “Where the Red Fern Grows” and tell me that boy doesn’t love his dogs. Is it in a sexual way? Absolutely not, but romance is NOT based on sex.
That being said: when it comes to writing romantic relationships: go crazy. People will argue up and down about whether what you write is romantic, sweet, stupid, oppressive, biased, abusive, misogynistic, prejudiced, homophobic, whatever. What I am saying is IT DOES NOT MATTER. Unless one of your partners is literally beating the ever loving crap out of the other one, what is constituted as romantic depends entirely on the reader.
So what do I do?
I enjoy the protective formula. I think it goes back to the classics. The daring knight rides in on a horse, sword drawn to slay the evil dragon and rescue the princess.
Of course, it’s also good to mix things up a bit. The dragon flies in and eats the knight on the horse before rescuing the princess. The Princess rides in on a dragon and slays the knight before rescuing the horse. The horse rides in on a dragon and slays the princess, rescuing the knight. The Princess rides in on the knight…you know what, never mind on that one. They’re not going anywhere if she’s riding him.
However, if I were to give any one piece of advice it would be this: Don’t worry about the cliches. They’re classics for a reason. I’ve yet to meet anyone who has had a suitor bring flowers, chocolates and a bubble bath and responded with “How dareth thou bring me this garbarge?!” before swatting the chocolates out of their hands, stamping on the flowers and flipping them the bird.
(THIS IS NOT A DARE. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS TO SOME POOR PERSON WHO TOOK THE EFFORT TO DO THAT.)
Point is, like most everything in the world romance is about the journey, not the destination. It’s the forming of a bond that is so strong that it becomes damn near unbreakable by anything. It’s a partnership between two (or more) people that despite all odds and hindrances stays intact.
The last key thing before I finish this: Every romance ever has had trouble at some point. It is imperative that the romance be a struggle in some way at some time otherwise it will get really boring. It is this struggle that will make or break the romantic aspect, more so than the lovey-dovey bits IMO.
-takes another deep breath- And done. Just wanted to say, thanks to you guys who have been following this. I’m tempted to kick it up to twice a week now instead of just every Tuesday. If you’re interested in reading my work, you can visit my fan fiction author site:http://www.fanfiction.net/u/3255985/KibaElunal. It’s mostly League of Legends stuff, though I do have a RWBY story if any of you out there are big fans of that. I also like to think that my work is pretty stand alone. It doesn’t require much knowledge of the universes to enjoy the story.
If you want to check out a sample of the novel I am in the process of publishing you can visit my fiction press author site: https://www.fictionpress.com/~kibaelunal
Thanks again everyone, I wish you the best of luck in life and literature.
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